Dating but not ready for a relationship
You’ve given it more time because you don’t want to hurt them and you want to see them happy. A good place to start is finding out what you might be doing wrong.
As The Pursuer, you’ve probably made a lot of mistakes by this point, such as: So why are these a problem?
This week’s article is in response to a question from a reader (via Ask Melissa!
I didn't look into what he said, but why would he say that knowing he's not looking for a relationship, when on my relationship I said I was specifically was looking for a relationship?Men and women are different, and when a man says something to you, the same words out of his mouth often have different meaning than the same words out of a woman’s mouth. The sooner you realize this, the less time you’re going to waste, the less heartache you’re going to have, and the more happiness you’re going to enjoy. They want to feel that when they win you – if they win you – it’s a prize that they’ve conquered. In fact, his admitting his sense of readiness is one of the best case scenarios because then you don’t have to guess, he’s just coming out and saying it.He’s giving you a heads up that since he’s not ready for a relationship, he’s not going to be to meet the needs, requirements or expectations you might have for a relationship.
That said you need some help understanding what’s going on here, right? You may be what I call The Pursuer (formerly Person A) and The Evader (Person B) as described below: The Pursuer: You’re hopelessly in love with that special someone (The Evader).